| PR 2008 - Experiences of women |
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From electivecesarean.com From Birth Trauma Canada From csections.org From Birth Trauma Association, UK From electivecesarean.com *Can I demand an elective cesarean? I am in desperate need of advice... *I was made to feel ashamed of fearing labour. I fully understand the risks and am fully informed. Please could put me in contact with an obstetrician who could help me? *Do you know where I can find out if there is a private clinic who carry out elective cesarean or whether an NHS hospital near me would consider it? *Can I request an elective cesarean on the NHS? How likely are they to accept? *I had a scheduled c/s for my 3rd after I lost my 2nd to a birth injury in a vaginal birth... *...the only downside to the whole experience was people's bad attitudes and negativity towards my choice of having a cesarean. *I have put off having a child because of my fear of childbirth and am now trying to get permission for an elective caesarean before it is too late - though it seems prevailing opinion is against me. *I gave birth by elective c-section 8 weeks ago, which was a most positive experience. I was, however, dismayed by the aggressive and outraged attitude of both professionals and non-professionals toward my decision to elect a c-section. *I had a planned cs just 3 weeks ago... I am making a fantastic recovery... It was the best decision I made and I would do it all again exactly the same. *I only wish I'd found you sooner. I suffer from extreme tocophobia (fear of childbirth), I have had counseling, CBT, Hypnosis all to not much avail. My partner and I desperately want to start a family and 2 years ago to our joy we fell pregnant. My GP had led me to believe that an ec would be more than expected for a case such as ours. Unfortunately the area I moved to refused point blank. At my early scan I was told in no uncertain terms that I would not be allowed an EC and to pull myself together. I sought a second opinion and was told the same thing. After much despair and more counseling I terminated the much wanted pregnancy. With no funds for private care I had resigned myself to never having children a very distressing thought. Your site has given me a glimmer of hope, and the realisation that there are people supportive of Ec's. *I am pregnant with my 4th child. The first 3 children I delivered vaginally. I asked for an epidural every time but never received one. They always had an excuse either it was too late or too early or I don't know what... Now I would like to have a c-section but the doctors don't respect my wish. They told me that it was unethical and too expensive... After three painful labour and deliveries though I am done with natural, and I would like to have a different, hopefully less stress-and painful experience... Do you know if I have a chance to get a c-section and how to achieve it? Read more here. From Birth Trauma Canada *I was violated, degraded and butchered. *I change my baby's diapers and then I change my own. I'm 23 years old. *My beautiful baby will be my last. I will not subject myself to that again. *I've been having duty sex for the last four years. I am physically unable to have orgasms ever since the birth of my daughter. *If there is a next one it will be a planned cesarean. *It is not irrational to fear childbirth. It is irrational not to fear childbirth. *I felt traumatized and depressed because it was traumatizing and depressing. Such a simple concept I can't understand how they can say they don't know what causes psychological problems after childbirth." *I sat on a doughnut ring for weeks. Everyone laughed at me. I can't stop crying. *I was promised an epidural by my obstetrician but I was denied this by the labour nurses. *This will be the third vaginal/anal surgery I've had since having my baby five years ago. *I hope you can save women from my hell. *My vaginal delivery was a surgical birth. What's more, every one in my prenatal class who had vaginal deliveries was surgical births. Thank you for not ignoring that reality. My crotch looked like a horrible industrial accident. *I rarely leave my home anymore. Incontinence supplies cost about $20 every week. If *I live to be 90 that will cost me $57,200.00. *I learned things from my childbirth experience and one of those things that stayed with me all these years was how very cruel some women can be to other women. *I was left naked in a room of people with the door left open for a time before I was wheeled in for prepping and my eventual cesarean. When I asked to be covered the nurse sneered at me and told me the hospital was ‘out of sheets at the moment'. No one can tell me I wasn't being punished for wanting a cesarean. *It is a lie that obstetric fistulas don't happen in this country and only happen in developing countries. There are lots of us out there who know better. *I was assaulted by the message that my experience would be a great experience when the pain was severe and the damage extensive. It was infantilizing. It was a sinister, victim blaming cult. *I wanted a vaginal delivery to avoid surgery. That was a load of crap. Read more here, here and here. From c-sections.org *I am terrified of giving birth...But when I asked my midwife about a caesarean she told me not to be 'ridiculous'. Saying why on earth would I choose to do that to myself... *I would like to know if I can request caesarean in UK. I'm really scared to give birth naturally! I have horrible nightmares about it, I can't think about anything else! (3 months pregnant) *I am 37. I feel like a teenager having to find a way to tell her parents. So I am putting off going to see the midwife for a while... I just hope I don't get in too much trouble with the NHS. (pregnant for the 4th time after 3 previous caesareans) *I have tried to do research on the internet, but I keep finding sites that state that a 'natural' delivery is the best and only way. If you can advise me then I would be very grateful. Read more here. From Birth Trauma Association, UK *I knew as soon as I found out I was pregnant that I would prefer a caesarian section. I was advised to try a natural birth. One of my main concerns was my size, I am just over 5ft and small framed, I felt my baby was big. I was told my baby would be a perfect size for me. I left the appointment crying. I know that the NHS in general is trying to reduce the number of caesareans that are performed in this country, whether this is for health or financial reasons I am not sure. However, I feel if I had been allowed a choice I would be concentrating on more positive aspects of my life now, instead of reliving this birth over and over again. *I was begging for a caesarean, because nothing was happening and I was told I should try and push. I was only 4 cms dilated, but my baby's heartbeat was strong. I asked again and was told that the consultant/surgeon had been out playing golf all day. After 13 hours, at midnight, they finally agreed that this baby was not going to be delivered vaginally and I was prepped for theatre. I didn't feel an ounce of love for this baby who had arrived. *The birth's of both my children were a nightmare and I would NEVER, EVER have another! I felt completely unprepared for the events which happened. I had attended classes but they gave no real indication of the degree of pain that a normal labour is. Read more here. |
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